What a weighty word, a complex concept and it even comes with a religious heritage. It’s more than a viewpoint, it’s an axis from which we all orbit. To learn about our personal sovereignty and to live from this place is part of the journey of becoming a transformative, generative coach at inviteCHANGE.
Learning to trust myself as a coach is intertwined with learning and practicing living from sovereignty and now being a champion for it on behalf of my clients.
Here’s a personal example to illustrate sovereignty as it gained importance in my life.
Years before I became a coach, I was a manager with a new, emerging team inside of a company that had just completed an acquisition and reorganization. Several times I walked into ambiguous situations with employees or managers where I would be asked what to do. Early on I found myself using the executive’s name or authority as the reason to act a specific way. One day I happened upon a conversation and heard one of my district managers doing the same thing – handing off his personal power by saying to the employee, “Sarah said to do it this way.” The impact hit me right in the gut. The manager didn’t sound or feel authentic or trustworthy.
It was time to look within and find where I was side-stepping direct communication. What was holding me back and what was it that I wanted to claim in myself? Working with my professional coach and her powerful questions, I began to bring forward insights of authority and accountability and how my inner “sovereign” could be honored in the workplace and throughout my life. While I may have been subject to authority that was harsh, unfair or without empathy, that did not have to be what I brought forward to my team. Tuning in to what was true for me, and then connecting to my core values, essence and purpose comprised my sovereignty. The change to live from sovereignty was intentional and incremental. How it manifested with the team amazed me on all counts. Living from sovereignty brought out their sovereignty in ways that were shrouded by shifting accountability to someone, anyone or avoiding situations that called for them to be fully present. As they realized they mattered, that their point of view was valuable and called for, fear or ambivalence were replaced with respect, diversity, inclusion and integrity. They began to claim their sovereignty. The dynamic impact of sovereignty resulted in the team overcoming seemingly insurmountable challenges including a recession, hundreds of businesses/accounts closing and much more. Together we rose to the occasion and experienced team sovereignty as we grew into our responsibility for contribution, retained the top talent and grew closer to our clients and suppliers.
How did coaching support this success story? The introduction by the coach and practice of living from sovereignty by the client. I now have the pleasure of introducing sovereignty to my clients and witnessing their evolution and success!
Sarah Graves, PCC, Director of Sales for inviteCHANGE, has 30 + years of experience in Hospility industries. Sarah has coached teams from opening restaurants to new products launch. Her experience in recruitment, training, preparation, strategy, has demonstrated consistently excellent results.